Talking Business and Going Private

Last night I had another important talk with Payton.  I have had many important talks with Payton.  I hate having to have them.  However, there are some really sick puppies in this world and it is a necessary evil.  This important talk was based on an article I read.  It involved a five year old girl that was nearly molested by a boy that was nine at her daycare.  We have already discussed with Payton the importance of no one touching her business.  Yes, we call it her business.  My mom came up with this as Payton and Cooper were taking a bath together about year ago.  Payton inquired about the difference between her and Cooper down below and my mom in a fit of panic just simply stated that it is his business and this is your business and we don't touch each others business.  I can understand the general terminology, and in fact I am somewhat relieved that she came up with the concept.  I hate it when people give body parts silly names or refer to them in the correct medical terminology.  I am not  ready to add the words penis and vagina to her vocabulary.  Judge me if you must.  I don't care.

Back to the important talk.  I haven't spoken to Payton about the possibility of another kid trying to take advantage of her.  I have only spoken to her about another adult or a person in general. Therefore, anytime we have an important talk, I always start it off that way.  I sit her down and look her in the eyes so she knows that this is important.  So last night after her bath as we were cuddling on the sofa, I told her that I needed to talk to her about something important.  She also responded that she needed to talk to me about something important in her most serious voice.  I asked if she wanted to go first; however, she said I could.  Therefore, I begin the speech about how no one should touch her business or make her feel uncomfortable even another kid.  If someone tries this or if she feels in anyway uncomfortable she needs to leave the situation, tell a teacher, and always tell Mommy.  There are no secrets from Mommy when it comes to this and Mommy will never be mad.  I made her make sure she understood and even pinky promise.  I kept thinking to myself, why in the hell is it necessary to have these kind of discussion with a three year old?  However, I am not dumb enough to live in a bubble where there are not sick effs out there that do this kind of stuff.

Now, it was Payton's turn.  She told me the same exact thing.  That if anyone touched my business or made me feel uncomfortable I should tell her and Richard (my boss).  I give myself credit for not laughing because I didn't want to take away from the importance of what I told her.  She also made my pinky promise that I would tell her and Richard if this ever happened. Okay doky then. 


Also, I would welcome any and all feedback or ideas on how you handle these talks with your own little ones.

I know this is the first of many important talks we will have to have with Payton.  Don't even get me started on my fear of technology and the internet.  However, I know that this is something that will have to be discussed and dealt with in the future.  Now that brings me to this.  I am thinking about making this blog private.  The whole point of the blog was to document our family life for our family and friends.  However, I always hate it when I stalk blogs and they go private.  Not that I have a huge fan following, but I know I do have some lurkers out there.  Also, I kind of have a pretty good idea of who they are, and I would have no problem allowing you to view the blog.  Therefore, while I am considering this..........I welcome all feedback on the subject.  I think that I have for the most part already made up my mind regarding the privacy thing.  Therefore, please e-mail, even if I have your e-mail, your e-mail address so I can make sure you can view the blog when and if this becomes private.